Monday, March 17, 2008

Back to the drawing board...

The Femera didn't work. I had the dreaded appearance of AF yesterday, but do admit, if she was coming to visit, I am glad it was this weekend. Next weekend we will be in Mexico. I am so excited to just get away from all this and relax on the beach somewhere. I have a call in at the doctor's office to see where we go from here. Last month, Dr. R was really disappointed to be treating me for infertility again. I tried to tell him I was the epiphany of the "hard to treat patient." I think he thought I was exaggerating... If nothing is wrong with us, why on earth are we still empty handed???? 5 years ladies.... I'm in a bit of a mood today, so I'll just leave this post with that!

16 comments:

soapchick said...

Elaine - I am sorry that you are still struggling with infertility, that is so many years and I can't imagine. I do hope you and your hubby have a fabulous time in Mexico - wow, sounds like a trip of a lifetime! Just one question, that maybe is answered somewhere in your blog - why not try IVF?

Elaine said...

There are several reasons we haven't moved on to IVF actually. First, and foremost, it isn't covered by our insurance. NC does not mandate that infertility is covered. We do have some coverage, $5000 lifetime max for meds, $5000 lifetime max for treatement--which we have pretty much already maxed out.

Secondly, call me a coward on this, but I can't phathom the idea of incorporating finiancial stress on top of the stress we have already should it fail.

Lastly, I have been fortunate enough to get pregnant 2 times on my own. K won't move on to IVF because of this fact and because I am so hesitant because of the other two reasons.

Deidre said...

Hi Elaine! I'm so sorry about this month. I hope you have a wonderful time in Mexico to de-stress a little.

Also, I don't know much about it, but do you know of a program in Asheville (IVF) where you get 100% of your money back if unsuccessful? I just heard about it from a lady at church whose daughter was scheduled for it. Let me know if you know about that.

Praying for you>...

Bonnie said...

I can relate to your "mood" - we just hit our 5 year mark! I had a good friend that had unexplained infertility, and I think that may be harder to deal with. At least I have a name for mine - something to be angry about - something to blame! Five years of not painting our home office, because I thought it would be a nursery by now. Five years of people telling us to relax and it will happen. five years - it's an eternity isn't it?

Mindy said...

I'm so sorry Elaine!
Will be praying for you!
I do hope that you and your husband have a fabulous time in Mexico. I hope it is relaxing and refreshing and that you have nice warm weather the whole time!
in HIM -
Mindy

Fertilized said...

I struggled for a long time as well and could never make the ivf leap. (mostly for the same reasons -$ and i have seen 2 lines before)

Kick back in mexico, enjoy your trip and drink a fruity umbrella drink for me.

Janna said...

Elaine, I'm so sorry that AF showed. I know how hard it is each month when it doesn't work. Keeping you in my prayers. I hope y'all have a great time in Mexico. I know it's hard, but try and relax and just enjoy each other! (((HUGS)))

WISHING...HOPING...and PRAYING said...

so sorry to hear about your unwelcomed visitor. truly i pray for you every night. i am glad that you at least get to "escape" for a bit to mexico. try to relax and have fun. easier said than done! i was on femara for 7 months before it worked. i know you have already gone through so much, but don't give up!

Alison said...

Oh Elaine... I'm so sorry. I keep hoping that one of these days I will log in and see a wonderful surprise of you announcing your BFP. I'm just gonna keep praying for you!

What part of Mexico? How nice for you and hubby!! I bet the tanning bed has been working overtime!! :)

Mel said...

I am so sorry to hear this cycle didn't fly. I do hope that you have a wonderful trip, though, and enjoy some serious fruity cocktails on the beach.
*hugs*

andrea_jennine said...

I'm so sorry.

gracechild said...

sorry about that girl. enjoy mexico like you are 18 years old again :)

Charne Trollip said...

Elaine, I am so very sorry that this was not your month. Hope you blessed with a little one soon! Enjoy the break and hope you able to relax and pamper yourself (and hubby)

MoonNStarMommy said...

{{{BIG HUGS}}} I know that it's hard - trust me I know. We faught for 5 years to get Noah - but I had Calahan to keep my mind off things a little... all I can do is give you {{HUGE HUGS}} Get away, enjoy your time in Mexico, enjoy your hubby :)

Chris said...

It is just so, so hard to not have a reason for infertility, and also to not have success either. Believe me, I can relate. I hope that your vacation was a wonderful one. I'm really looking forward to hearing about it!

Searching said...

So, how was Mexico??